People have a running internal dialogue with themselves, sometimes called self-talk, to make sense of their day-to-day life experience. The tone and content of this self-dialogue is impacted by our life experience up to that point in our lives. Sometimes the dialogue we have with our self is supportive of ourselves.
It’s also common, though, for our internal dialogue to be full of harsh judgments or irrational conclusions about ourselves. This more negative self-talk tone of can negatively impact our behavior, our emotions, and even our physical health. The good news is that we can learn to adapt our inner dialogue in a way that is more positive and supportive of ourselves!
- Start by becoming more aware of your thought patterns. Write down the ideas you carry about yourself and observe how those ideas impact your mood.
- Identify logical errors in your thinking that lead to unfair conclusions
- Gradually, replace those identified thoughts with more supportive ones
Be patient with this process and consider talking with a counselor if you find it too challenging to make progress on your own. Often the support and outside perspective from a counselor can help us see our thought patterns more clearly.
Here are a few links that include descriptions of this process and some videos on the topic. (Some links contain advertisements- please ignore these distractions and focus on the content of the article).